Comments on: Ask Two Great Questions to Minimize Misunderstanding http://www.reformingprojectmanagement.com/2006/04/02/603/ The magazine for the project age Fri, 08 Aug 2008 21:04:30 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.5 by: Marcel http://www.reformingprojectmanagement.com/2006/04/02/603/#comment-4056 Wed, 17 May 2006 15:14:42 +0000 http://www.reformingprojectmanagement.com/2006/04/02/603/#comment-4056 What does a mood of curiosity look like? It is strongly associated to empathy. Empathy means you are fully connected with the guy you are talking to, not only the facts he is saying but his state of mood too. So if you want to appear cuirous to this guy, you have to be empathic and show him that you not only understand him, but also support and understand his feelings too. Quite a program! mostly related to non verbal signs... It's like sport. Practice it and walk the talk... then came the curiosity ;-) What does a mood of curiosity look like?

It is strongly associated to empathy.
Empathy means you are fully connected with the guy you are talking to, not only the facts he is saying but his state of mood too.
So if you want to appear cuirous to this guy, you have to be empathic and show him that you not only understand him, but also support and understand his feelings too. Quite a program!
mostly related to non verbal signs…
It’s like sport. Practice it and walk the talk… then came the curiosity ;-)

]]> by: Timothy http://www.reformingprojectmanagement.com/2006/04/02/603/#comment-3535 Sun, 16 Apr 2006 02:07:42 +0000 http://www.reformingprojectmanagement.com/2006/04/02/603/#comment-3535 Hal - one of the best things to do on the who-what-where-when-why-how is to ask the question multiple times. For example, during problem definition, lots of people want to jump right to a solution... "we need..." or "we have a lack of..." By asking "why?" multiple times (generally up to 5), one can break down the defenses to find out the real meaning behind the problem. Asking questions in general is a great (non-threatening) approach. Great post Hal - one of the best things to do on the who-what-where-when-why-how is to ask the question multiple times. For example, during problem definition, lots of people want to jump right to a solution… “we need…” or “we have a lack of…” By asking “why?” multiple times (generally up to 5), one can break down the defenses to find out the real meaning behind the problem. Asking questions in general is a great (non-threatening) approach. Great post

]]> by: Hal http://www.reformingprojectmanagement.com/2006/04/02/603/#comment-3386 Tue, 04 Apr 2006 00:02:08 +0000 http://www.reformingprojectmanagement.com/2006/04/02/603/#comment-3386 Hi Joe, I will write about it. In short, mood is a predisposition towards the future. The word attitude fits nicely, just like attitude when flying -- a leaning towards or away from something. Mood can be circumstantial or pervasive. One of the best expressions about mood I think was stated by Fernando Flores. "Moods have us." In other words, we do get out of the right or wrong sides of the bed. However, we can choose to ignore that. I'll write more about it in the coming weeks. I'll also add it to my book. Hal Hi Joe,

I will write about it. In short, mood is a predisposition towards the future. The word attitude fits nicely, just like attitude when flying — a leaning towards or away from something.

Mood can be circumstantial or pervasive. One of the best expressions about mood I think was stated by Fernando Flores. “Moods have us.” In other words, we do get out of the right or wrong sides of the bed. However, we can choose to ignore that.

I’ll write more about it in the coming weeks. I’ll also add it to my book.

Hal

]]> by: Joe Ely http://www.reformingprojectmanagement.com/2006/04/02/603/#comment-3384 Mon, 03 Apr 2006 21:29:29 +0000 http://www.reformingprojectmanagement.com/2006/04/02/603/#comment-3384 Hal, a great post. And it opens a further possibility :-) Could you write at some time about how one choses and adopts a certain mood? You and I have talked about this a lot and it is very useful. Yet, I think most are unfamiliar with that. What does a mood of curiosity look like? What does it not look like? What attitudes do I assume to be curious? How do I let the listener know I am genuine in this? Same set of questions for other moods. I say this simply because it is a powerful and simple tool for communication, if used sincerely and not manipulatively. Thanks for listening!! Hal, a great post.

And it opens a further possibility :-)

Could you write at some time about how one choses and adopts a certain mood? You and I have talked about this a lot and it is very useful. Yet, I think most are unfamiliar with that. What does a mood of curiosity look like? What does it not look like? What attitudes do I assume to be curious? How do I let the listener know I am genuine in this?

Same set of questions for other moods.

I say this simply because it is a powerful and simple tool for communication, if used sincerely and not manipulatively.

Thanks for listening!!

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